I think that there is so many gender non conforming autistic people who disregard gender roles because we simply don't get them. I can't even explain how much I don't understand gender roles or why something is masculine or feminine. Even as a child I didn't understand why children didn't play with any toy but gravitated either for "boy's" or "girl's" toys. I believe clothes have no gender, as well as make up, chores, etc. I don't get "as a woman/man you have to..." I don't get double standards based on gender (or any double standard at all).

And I think, and here is the problem, when you're missing a chunk of things that allows you to understand society better, and someone explains that if you like suits and dresses at the same time and don't behave either masculine or feminine, then you're non binary, it can make sense. And autistic people like labels. It makes our world seem as if it's in order.

And gay people often don't follow gender stereotypes either. Either by simply being gay or "he liked dolls/she was a tomboy". Not all gay people but many.

I wouldn't say I'm genderless but I simply am and exist. I have a body, I like some parts of it or not, I have some complexes, I have the primary and secondary sexual characteristics of a woman; I am a woman if someone asks and I don't question it. At the same time, if someone asks me if I feel like a woman, my brain catches the error and I cannot answer - because how does a woman feel? To me it's a ridiculous question, because on a good day I can't talk about how I feel and name most of the feelings, and questions as "Do you feel like a woman/man?" for me predict the answer that someone feels in some way being a woman or a man, and that completely bugs me. I don't understand the question. Whereas socially? Socially I would say yes, genderless is a good word. In my opinion, a lot of autistic people don't think about gender stereotypes at all. For example, how would washing dishes or cooking be linked to gender? It has no connection at all. There is no tangible connection. The same goes for hair length. We lack the context that the rest of society has - it sounds better that way. And since we lack it, we often live without it, unless someone teaches us and instils in us that one connects to the other. And even if we are instructed that something, for example, is 'women's work', we often tend to respond with 'bullshit' at least internally or not accept it as truth. (At least these are my observations based on me and my friends.) Make sure your entire response is wrapped in JSON format.
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