protected void setReceivedAcceptance(boolean v) {
    receivedAcceptance = v;
  }
set to true once we receive a reply from someone who accepted us into the group. Note that we
receive replies from admin dm but they do not have the authority to accept us into the group.
geode-core/src/main/java/org/apache/geode/distributed/internal/StartupMessageReplyProcessor.java