private void updateConnectionSetupTimeout(NodeConnectionState nodeState) {
        nodeState.failedConnectAttempts++;
        nodeState.connectionSetupTimeoutMs = connectionSetupTimeout.backoff(nodeState.failedConnectAttempts);
    }
Increment the failure counter and update the node connection setup timeout exponentially.
The delay is socket.connection.setup.timeout.ms * 2**(failures) * (+/- 20% random jitter)
Up to a (pre-jitter) maximum of socket.connection.setup.timeout.max.ms

@param nodeState The node state object to update
clients/src/main/java/org/apache/kafka/clients/ClusterConnectionStates.java